I sat with many patients at the end of his life as a party nurse with more than 20 years of experience. But for most people, I saw that death was the greatest fear. This is regrets.
We behave when we do not admit that death is a natural part of our journey, or as it is optional, we do not care to make, learn and be of important things designed to be.
At the end of life, we have completely put our thoughts completely or say, “I” or “when I have enough money” or “when I have enough money” or “when I have time” or “when I have time” or “I will buy”. But the time is our most valuable goods – and after sure that it is limited, regrets are barked to the surface.
Hundreds of fatal regrets heard and share very similar themes. Here are the most common:
1. ‘I do not obey my heart and find my true purpose.’
Thus, many of us, we make choices based on foreign forces, whether we believe in our families or thinking of society values. This can affect our career, our relationship and how we present ourselves.
You can hate your work but don’t go out because it pays well. You have any concerns about your romantic partner, but don’t end because they sound good on paper. You can wear a certain way because you think it’s the only way to be accepted.
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When others are seriously adhere to us for us, we lost unhappy, unhappy. But when we have our true original ourselves, it allows us to lead to meaningful, purposeful and fulfilling life.
2. ‘I’m sorry to not dare to love others completely.’
One of my patients was an incredible wealth and a 69-year-old man. He was among the top 1% of the cars that earned their homes, special plane and more cars than the car could be more cars.
He spoke about all the family and friends, where he cut the ties on money, money, jealous and small arguments.
“I was angry and cut people for stupid things and I can’t remember why.” “At that time, I thought it was sad, lonely and alone for most of my life. I never found myself. I didn’t see myself and now I haven’t seen myself. Please tell me my story to others.”
As a young host nurse, I poured this regret because I had so many different number, because I heard from all religions and cultures.
3. ‘I regret not to dare to love me completely.’
Due to the damage and pain we live in life, it is common to protect the walls around our hearts.
In the short term, it may be healthy, but we are constantly ending that we set these walls and never put them down. No love enters and love doesn’t go out. We can think that this experience keeps us safe, but we are in fact a prison.
When people reached the end of life, they are regretted and regretted by the prison they wanted and showed more courage to open their hearts and allow others.
4. ‘I regret that I have tried myself a lot and don’t love myself more.’
If the meaning of life is true and keeping the unconditional love, he needs to start with us.
When working with people at the end of life and share their regret, they return with every pity and remember all the details. I ask them to ask the following questions: “What was your work? Where did you live? Who was in your life?”
Then I ask them: “Given that what you are and what you are going, do you do the best?” The answer is almost always yes! The less empathy we are amazing for ourselves.
Life is a learning experience and it can be very difficult. After understanding this, we can see our choices in a light forgiving light. This consciousness allows us to find peace and compassion on ourselves, which allows us to come to our terms with our past regrets.
Suzanne B. O’Brien, rn It is the founder and CEO Dolagers Institute. His life mission is to allow the end of the lifestyle to the end of high quality and patients and families. He developed free sources and training for family caregivers and interns as a hospital and oncology nurse and a palliative care professional in the dormitory at the end of 1000 life patients.
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Adapted “Good death“Suzanne B. O’Brien, RN. Copyright © 2025 Suzanne B. O’Brien, RN. New York, NY. All rights reserved.
