As a father of two sons, I’m not sure how toxic manhood will be solved

I’m not sure where I was or the first time I hear the term “poisonous manhood”, but it seems everywhere these days.

In addition to a short period of high school, I did not think too much for manhood. I knew that the men in my life wanted to imitate, and they also represented a variety of manhood. Some don’t know how a hammer works, and some could burn a match on the foot of the pants.

As a father, I now faced my scenes when I raised the two sons, especially two sons – 12 and 7 years of age.

After making some research, I learned that the men of toxic manhood have three main beliefs: men should be strong, men should not be emotional and men should be in power.

Of course, if I do not subscribe to these beliefs, good behavior for my sons shall not prefer toxic values.

Confidence 1: Men should be physically strong and tough

My sons on the surface are physically strong. Ancient trash can be full of leaves climbing in a yard. The youngest taekwondo breaks the boards with the cheek of forehead.

Instead of noting these physical aspects, I try to teach my children to be more important. I try to show them that this hardness is better by finding the will and finding the ability to move forward in difficult situations.

For example, recently, when I lost my job, I said when I was disappointed I was sure that I could survive this difficult time. I modeled the stiffness without expressing anger and frustration about the situation.

Belief 2: Men should not express emotions

Both boys demonstrate their feelings like stage actors trying to hear in the nose. Jim Carrey is shown as Jim Carrey over joy, frustration, excitement and despair.

Emotions can fall on a parent, my partner, and I allow boys to live these emotions without shame. We give our boys the safest place for their feelings. When expressing uncertainty about how to react to something, we provide to understand the emotional space for themselves.

Because as you allow them, my wife and I sometimes forget their age and have expected to work as old versions of themselves. Step back as parents after a particularly difficult period of high emotions and “Oh, yes, he is only 7”

Belief 3: Men need to be in power

This one is most concerned about me. I have been around the strong and influential men of my whole profession of life and know how terrible they can be. I do not want my boys to be something like them, power and domination.

I start at home equality to ensure that I have no head. Instead of trusting their mothers to do housework, do various internal tasks such as laundry and yard work – without complaining.

I do not expect my boys to love homework but they should understand how hard it can be to keep a house. They hold. My oldest is a warm dinner, toilets and empty cat boxes, geckuine floors, vacuum vehicles and sometimes finishing vegetables for cooking.

In addition, I try to point out their mothers achievements; It is a successful school teacher. I also emphasize their grandmothers, a retired surgical nurse with the history of fighting sexual discrimination.

I know I can do more, especially in social media, they will be exposed to poisoning. Still, how I will solve each side of this problem, but there is a road map on the spot.